Me: Why do you look so glum?
Lady J: Someone has a crush on me.
Me: Ok…Why are you upset about this?
J: Because I’m just not ready for crushes. I’m not old enough.
Me: Well I’m glad you recognize that and I’m pretty sure that somewhere in the universe, your father’s hair just started to grow back. But, J, a crush isn’t a bad thing.
J: It’s not?
Me: No! It just means that this boy recognizes how special you are! It should fill your bucket!
J: But I’m not ready to have a crush on anybody.
Me: That’s very mature of you! You don’t have to have a crush on anybody. But it is important to be respectful of this boy’s feelings and not to dip into his bucket through unkind words or actions. Just keep being you… Incidentally, how do you know he has a crush on you?
J: Matthew* told me that David* has a crush on me. So I asked David if that was true and he said, “Yes.”
Me: Huh. Well you were brave to find out the truth and David was brave to tell you. Great job! I’m curious though, is Connor* still your boyfriend?
J: Mom, we’re just good friends. He’s my closest friend who’s a boy. But he’s not really my boyfriend.
Me: Well, thanks for the clarification… Hey, J?
J: Yeah, Mom?
Me: I love watching you grow. It’s a really great view.
J: Beaming from the back seat, ear to ear…
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*all names have been changed