The following conversation is part of a larger ongoing child-driven conversation about puberty and everything that comes with it. We consistently answer all questions with age appropriate honesty and use correct anatomical language. That being said, most of these conversations catch me off guard and are quite awkward, albeit highly entertaining. Enjoy 😉
Jordyn: Mom, what’s a condiment?
Me: A condiment is something you use to add flavor to your food like ketchup, mustard, relish, or mayonnaise.
J: No. That’s not it. You know how I have that book about how babies are made?
Me, realizing she meant condom and not condiment and trying to keep my cool: Yep. We haven’t read it in a while.
J: Well the book said something that goes over the penis and I didn’t get it.
Me: Yes. That’s a condom. It’s a latex cover that goes over the penis to prevent the man’s sperm from entering the vagina. It can prevent pregnancy and can also prevent people from accidentally getting each other sick through intercourse.
Max: So a condom is a penis cover and condiment is a food cover. They’re synonymous!
Me, chuckling: I think you missed the point, Dude.
Max: So then is a condom a synonym with a balloon since they’re both made out of latex?
Me, laughing and thinking back to my childhood when one of my sisters may have made (extremely slippery and highly fragile) water balloons out of some condoms she found in my parent’s bedroom and my father’s subsequent reaction: No. Not even a little.
J: Well anyway, I was looking through the book last night about the S-E-X part.
K: Mom, does S-E-X spell six?
M: Uh! Kennedy, the number six is S-I-X. S-E-X is sex.
K, upset with Max for correcting her: Well I don’t know what that is!
J: Kennedy, sex is when a man’s penis goes into a woman’s vagina to make a baby.
K: Eeeewwwww. I am NEVER doing that!
Max: Me neither. That’s gross. Besides, I don’t want to have a baby.
Me: Well that is totally respectable and absolutely your decision to make. Your bodies, your choices.
J: So the book said that sometimes people have sex even when they’re not trying to make a baby.
Me: Yeeessss….That’s true…
Max: But why? Why-in-the-world-would-anyone-do-that?
Me: Max, I’m honestly not ready to answer that for you right now. Let me think about the right way to discuss it with you and we can come back to that another time.
J: But that’s what a condom is for?
Max: But not a condiment.
Me: Correct. Hey! Let’s clear the table and finish getting ready for school!